Many women struggle with the heartbreaking problem of not being able to get pregnant. But if you have had problems in the past, don’t give up! Success might be just around the corner!
One of the main problems that occurs is that sex turns into a “means to an end” – you want to get pregnant, so you have to have sex on a schedule to make it happen. Sex can become a job. It loses its spontaneity, and even if you don’t feel like it at that moment, you have to do it, because what if you don’t get pregnant?
Be careful that you don’t do real damage to your relationship with your husband or boyfriend by insisting that he perform like a machine, with no thought as to whether he’s actually enjoying it or not! What’s more, don’t ignore the pleasure you should naturally feel as part of sex. If sex just turns into a way that you can get what you want – a baby – there may be some issues you should deal with.
This may sound like a surprising topic to some people early in their relationships, but those of you who have been in a relationship for years know that sometimes you have to work to keep the spice in your sex life.
Now if you add in the fact that you and your partner are both under pressure to make sure you get pregnant, the act of sex can lose some of its joy. For some couples, it can even become a chore.
Studies have shown that female orgasm actually increases the chances of getting pregnant. So if your entire purpose in having sex is for the man to ejaculate, you might want to rethink your approach.
Some suggestions for making sex fun again: be sure to include time for foreplay. Even if you want to skip it and get “right to the main event,” it’s important to be turned on so that you enjoy sex (and want to do it more often). Also make time for afterplay – the cuddling and touching after intercourse ends. This will make sure that sex doesn’t have to feel like wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am.
By the way, carving out time for both is important. For instance, if you want to have sex in the mornings, be sure to go to bed earlier and get up an hour earlier.
If you make time for sex, it will be more enjoyable. And if you enjoy it more, you’ll both want to do it more. And the more you do it, the more likely you are to get pregnant.